Cool, Calm And Presenting
With a Knowledge and Authenticity Thrown in ...
Posted on: 03/05/2012 By: Maureen Windridge
I spent last weekend Matching & Mirroring, Stepping Up & Stepping Down, Swishing, Anchoring, Un-wiring a Synaethesia, Time Processing lots of other things and generally having lots of fun and laughing until my sides hurt. And I did it with some amazing people ...
as cool as a polar bear on ice and as calm as the salmon he's seeking - that'll be me on friday!
You'll be forgiven if at this stage you're frowning at the terms I'm using which may seem a little alien to you right now - however if I say I'm using NLP "speak" then you may start to get my drift. Yes, I have done a two day certificate in NLP. NLP stands for Neuro Linguistic Programming - it was fascinating and I would like to learn more.
I do feel different now compared to how I felt on the Friday before I went on my training course. However, I feel that this NLP thing is very powerful and possibly "a little knowledge is a dangerous thing" philosophy makes me want to learn more.
Let me tell you a bit more about my weekend to paint a clearer picture for you.
NLP is about many things, including communication - how you communicate with yourself and how you communicate with other people. It's also about understanding how you think and getting a grip on how this effects the way that you behave and what you achieve.
During the weekend, I took part in a demonstration which was all about communicating effectively and the many ways to do this. I had to be mic'd up for it, which meant I could talk to a whole room full of people using the same tone and pitch I use for 1-2-1 face to face conversations, rather than attempting to yell at the top of my voice. I enjoy presenting, although some people find talking in front of a large group of people difficult - it's one of the most common phobias, you know.
However, I'm smiling to myself as I write this, recalling that I inadvertently gave the whole audience a laugh when I was asked the put my feet firmly on the floor for grounding; I was sitting - I said I couldn't do that because I had short legs and the chair was too high! They all laughed at another point and I don't know why and then they erupted with more laughter when I didn't realise I was supposed to be the comedian's fall guy and as a result his joke fell flat! I guess in the words of the legendary Noel Coward, "a talent to amuse is a rare talent ..." or words to that effect.
I was totally amazed at the compliments I got after my presentation. I was told I looked amazing, which was also quite funny since this was only shortly after coming in from a downpour! My voice was described as beautiful and relaxing; one person said they could have listened to me for hours. The course trainer said I had a very soft and calm way of presenting. We all have our own individual ways of communicating, and I think I demonstrated that you don't have to appear exceptionally strong or aggressive or super confident to make a point. The key is to believe in and be passionate about what you are saying and say it in your own comfortable style. People appreciate authenticity.
Speaking of presenting, I am starting my circuit of 4N 4Sights on Friday 4 May 2012 in Milton Keynes. I haven't found anyone to video so if you can help then do let me know. I do have a photographer lined up and I hope that following my weekend of NLP insights, his shots will show a confident smiling 4Sighter!
I hope my 4Sights will make you passionate about your accounts. I also hope my 4Sights will encourage others to have a go at 4Sighting and presenting too! If you'd like to come along and see my presentation, then you can book online here! It's at the Caldecotte Arms where local 4N members and guests meet for breakfast fortnightly between 8am - 10am. Come along!
And if you can't get to the meeting on Friday and you'll like to discuss any aspect of your bookkeeping then as usual do feel free to speak to me on +44 (0) 1908 692378 or you could email me if that's your preferred way of communicating!
Until next time ...
I consider myself to be incredibly lucky because I am a bookkeeper. At the age of thirteen I did a three year course in three months and passed with distinction. Many years have gone by since then and I am still fascinated by the process of double entry bookkeeping. A process developed over 500 years ago by a venetian monk called Luca Pacioli.
Many people would like a machine that they could put all their paper work into at one end and it would come out the other end all sorted totalled and balanced. I'm glad it hasn't been invented because it would take all the fun out of my work!